Am I doomed for failure?

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 8 years, I recently got a divorce last year, he is still going through the legalities of his. As couples, we used to hang out together but our spouses felt our attraction for one another so that caused problems. We started having an affair last year which resulted in both of our divorces. His is MUCH more complicated than mine and taking a lot longer. We both love each other very much and it is much more than a ual thing. We have the most amazing connection I have ever seen in couples and everyone else thinks so as well. Contrary to what the books and counselors say, can the first relationship after a divorce really last, even when the divorce isn't finalized, or are we doomed for failure? When you have that connection with someone is it still necessary to wait a year after the divorce is finalized?